Dear Readers
Today, I want to invite you behind the scenes of my life and share my true, unfiltered story. Many of you ask where my deep interest in ADHD in relationships came from and why I write so passionately about the emotional storms couples go through. The answer didn’t come from textbooks—it came directly from my own life.
In a time when the internet is flooded with polished, AI-generated images and generic advice, I want you to know who is really behind this screen. I am a real, living human being, carrying real-life baggage and navigating challenges that I try to understand and solve every single day.
Where It All Started: Codependency and Sobriety
My journey began with a painful truth. My husband is an alcoholic who has been sober for three years. When he first stopped drinking, I naively thought the hardest part was over. I quickly learned that sobriety is only the beginning of confronting everything that had been swept under the rug for years.
I entered therapy as a codependent person. In the simplest terms, what is codependency? It is a state where your own sense of safety, peace, and self-worth depends entirely on another person. For me, it meant that I was—and honestly, sometimes still am—addicted to my husband’s moods and the emotional atmosphere he brings into our home. Whenever he had a bad day, my entire world collapsed instantly.
The Diagnosis That Changed Everything
My therapy lasted for a full year. Around that same time, my husband decided to take the professional DIVA diagnostic assessment. The results shed a completely new light on everything that had happened between us over the years. It turned out he has ADHD, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), and is an Adult Child of Alcoholics (ACoA). His childhood home was filled with both psychological and physical abuse.
Because of that deep trauma, my husband struggles immensely to regulate his emotions. Since his childhood wounds robbed him of the ability to trust others, he still refuses to seek professional psychological help to this day.
What did that mean for me? I handled it terribly. I felt powerless, deeply lonely, and completely overwhelmed by his sudden emotional explosions and painful withdrawals.
Two Completely Different Worlds of ADHD Under One Roof
Desperate to save myself, I sought help and underwent testing as well. The result? I have ADHD too—but a completely, drastically different type than my husband.
Our daily life under one roof became a collision of two vastly different nervous systems. On one hand, our everyday life can be light, passionate, and joyful; a split second later, it can turn into an exhausting battlefield. (I wrote in detail about how drastically our two ADHD profiles differ and the practical tools we built to survive it in my e-book—for anyone interested, you can find it here: [Two Worlds, One Frequency: A Neurodivergent Couples’ Survival Guide]).
Getting diagnosed was my turning point. From that moment on, I began to see our marriage through a completely different lens. I stopped taking everything personally because I finally understood what we were actually fighting against.
What Therapy Taught Me and How I Protect My Peace Today
I have learned to live in a way that protects my mental health. I won’t pretend it is easy—it is a conscious, daily practice. The single most important lesson I took away from my year in therapy is this: I no longer allow myself to get pulled into my husband’s emotional chaos. His storm does not have to become my storm.
Step by step, I started doing things that nourish my soul and bring me genuine joy:
- Creating and sharing: I built this blog you are reading right now, as well as my second travel project, [yieldaihub.com], where I write about exploring the world.
- Traveling and discovering: I fell in love with traveling—I adore sightseeing, exploring new places, and experiencing the world on my own terms.
- Helping others: I earned my diploma as a naturopath. I truly love supporting and advising people on their journey toward balance, health, and inner peace.
From time to time, I will share short updates about myself and my everyday life here. I want you to feel that on the other side of this screen sits a real woman who has walked a long, messy road—and keeps moving forward.
Thank you for being here with me.
Warmly,
Anna
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(Disclaimer: This post reflects my personal story and is for informational and inspirational purposes only. It does not constitute medical or psychological advice. Always consult a qualified healthcare professional regarding your mental health.)